Hold On

One of the hardest things in life is realizing that you are holding onto the idea of something or someone, rather than the actual thing or person. In the end, (for me at least), it boils down to comfort. We all seek comfort, but the downside of getting comfortable is sometimes you are blinded from seeing the reality of a situation. And only the STRONGEST can deal with that reality.


We have all worn our rose-colored glasses. And while it is hard to remove those pretty little jaded things, at some point, you have to take them off and see things at face-value. We need to recognize the difference in our life situations from being productive and moving forward to just  being comfortable. It is one of the hardest things a person can ever do, but it is an absolute necessity.

Comfort zones can be a funny thing. For most of my life, my parents pushed me out of my comfort zone. I in-turn have tried to push my son out of his comfort zone. He and I have different personalities- sort of- so it does not always work. But sometimes, he takes the leap and goes for it, and sometimes he tells me to chill out. At least we are having the conversation. But comfort is important to ALL human beings. So to be in that zone is seemingly a good thing...to a point.

I remember one of my old bosses telling me that change is good thing, and that it is hard but necessary. I kind of took that on as a motto for life. I have lost jobs, friends, lovers...and I accepted the change. It was hard, but in the end it was necessary fo rme to evolve. 

I don't have super words to solve whatever is happnening...I still am dealing with my day-to-day. But I am blessed in that I have family and friends who are surrounding me. That is amazing. And that is something to be beyond grateful for.

I was kicked out of my comfort zone about 7 months ago. I breathed deeply, hard, and with many tears in between. I slept, I drank, and I prayed. I am okay. I am getting better every day. But my point is, don't fall into a comfort zone. Rather, create your place. And if people fall into and out of, then they are welcomed and farewelled. Do not be that person that does not accept change, it is ineveitable. Embrace it and smile.